The celibate life can be beautiful and fulfilling. Sometimes, however, Catholics idealize it after seeing difficult and failing marriages. Celibate priests, monks, nuns, and laypeople are spared some of the suffering that comes from being closely linked to another person for life.
Yet celibates have their own share of suffering. Despite being exempt from marital trials, they can experience deep loneliness from time to time. They may see a happily married couple with kids in tow and think, “I want that.”
Rather than pretend that celibacy is an idyllic state of bliss, let’s acknowledge the loneliness aspect and understand ways to deal with it.
Ask the Lord what he wants to do with your aching heart.
Bring your loneliness to Jesus in prayer. But don’t expect Him to immediately take away the pain. Sometimes He wants us to experience it for a while to remind ourselves that we are dependent on Him and He alone can ultimately satisfy our desires. Earth isn’t our true home, so we shouldn’t be surprised that we aren’t completely fulfilled here.